Weird fact about me: When I'm out and about with my headphones in and a good song comes on, I start to dance. I don't care who's watching.
To the 10 year old little boy who was taking a walk with his papa in Blackheath Village and kept turning around to watch: the song was "Sweat (a la la la la long), from the album Bad to the Bone - by Inner Circle" ~ but at your age you shouldn't know a song like that.
This is different to when I was in high school and would sit by the wayside at school discos because I was convinced "I couldn't dance".
I went to the University of Cambridge which is almost all white and because I was "different" anyway I started dancing. The 'white people can't dance' stereotype bulked up my confidence.
To my surprise, people would come up to me in clubs and be like, "You can really dance"!! My dancing confidence was boosted and a dancing queen was born.
Lesson: don't let what you think other people might think control your behaviour. Dance like no one is watching.
This extends to many other facets of life. Many people don't embark on new journeys because of what they believe other people will think. It's human nature, it's been impressed upon us from birth that we need to be concerned about how others perceive us but frankly the less I care the happier I am, generally.
By Heather Katsonga-Woodward
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