Okay, okay, it's about that time when you start feeling a little panicky if you haven't bought Christmas presents yet so I thought I would help you out with Amazon links to some of my favourite things.
These are basically the kind of things that I own myself. Nuxe's toner is one of my favourite discoveries this year. I love the toner and I in fact have it on my own Amazon wishlist - I'm hoping the in-laws add it to my gifts. The books are designed to empower people to make 2016 their year when it comes finances. I loved reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg the COO at Facebook and my own book Build A 6-Figure Business just got released. The kiddy toys are all things that Chester has and loves so this is essentially, Heather, Harry & Chester's favourite things. ​Hair
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Okay, okay, it's about that time when you start feeling a little panicky if you haven't bought Christmas presents yet so I thought I would help you out with Amazon links to some of my favourite things.
These are basically the kind of things that I own myself. Nuxe's toner is one of my favourite discoveries this year. I love the toner and I in fact have it on my own Amazon wishlist - I'm hoping the in-laws add it to my gifts. The books are designed to empower people to make 2016 their year when it comes finances. I loved reading Lean In by Sheryl Sandberg the COO at Facebook and my own book Build A 6-Figure Business just got released. The kiddy toys are all things that Chester has and loves so this is essentially, Heather, Harry & Chester's favourite things. Hair
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Oh, sad day...Little Zeusy started nursery last week. On the first day, he waved at me and I thought, this will be easy...
...however, I now realise he thought I was just going to the next room - he now cries when I drop him off and it breaks my heart. I know he's 10 months and lots of people have to leave children in day care much earlier but it's no consolation. On the other hand, I do enjoy my work so at least I'm not leaving him for a job I hate which for others is the case. How was it when you started leaving your child at nursery or day care? Michael Serwa, originally from Eastern Europe, is a life coach. He isn't an ordinary run-of-the-mill life coach, however, he's at the top of the coaching game. He really knows how to get to the soul of a problem. He's gained massive popularity since the launch of his book From Good to Amazing and is so in demand that people now pay up to 5-figures to get onto his calendar. I was honoured to be interviewed by him. If you have any questions at all about my business or starting your own, please ask them under his video. Watch here: This blog post is dedicated to my NCT friend, Kat. Antenatal classes never explained why skin-to-skin contact between mother and baby was important. They said it needs to happen as soon as birth happens but didn’t go into the details of why - frankly, I’m sure most midwives couldn’t give you a proper explanation if you asked outside of the surface level: It helps with bonding, regulating body temperature, preventing postpartum depression etc. But why? Why does it have this impact? Importantly, whilst skin to skin immediately after birth is strongly recommended they never tell you to continue doing it when you get home. The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff has helped me to understand why it’s important and whilst I will try to explain it in my own words I know I won’t do the book justice. It’s a very academically rigorous book with many case studies. So in my own simple, layman words: Skin-to-skin Immediately After Birth Skin-to-skin post delivery is important for continuity of the human species. Basically, at the instant that a child is born mother nature wanted to ensure that its mother wholeheartedly wants to care for it. Consequently, at the point of birth and skin-to-skin contact a plethora of hormones are released that impress upon the mother the need to take care of this baby come hell or high water. In pre-historic times, the only reason a mother would not receive a baby post birth is because there was still birth. The result is that grieving hormones were released designed for the mother to mourn her child and eventually get over that loss. As sophisticated as we humans might think we are, evolutionary responses don’t develop so fast. If there is too much of a time delay between birth and mother-baby contact those grieving hormones kick into action and even if the baby is brought later it may be too late. The woman will be feeling all sorts of negative emotions and the mourning process cannot simply be stopped. Interestingly, not all animals have evolved the same way. With geese, the baby forms an attachment to the first thing it sees coming out and follows it everywhere. This happens because geese have many goslings and there is no way the mother goose could follow them all around. This is why you see a gaggle of goslings all following their mother. They were primed to do this at birth. If the gosling’s initial contact is with something else, e.g. a human, it will follow that human around everywhere too - interesting, right? Skin-to-skin During Early Development (New Born Onwards) This is all about helping a baby transition from a comfortable, fully active environment (the womb) into a world composed mostly of “lifeless” air. Basically, in the womb, a baby is in a state of “bliss” - it is happy and content. The baby expects this happy existence where all its needs are met to continue. Whilst the initial skin-to-skin is crucial, follow-on skin-to-skin helps to build on the bond created and it has very calming effect on the baby because it reminds him of what he knows, the warmth and comfort of the womb in which he developed. The need for skin contact progresses towards a need for human contact in general. It’s a natural progression. When your baby is born it doesn’t think in words (as we do) but at first in terms of emotions (happy, sad, scared) and sensations (cold, hot, soft, hard). It’s taken out of the blissful, warm womb into a world of inactive “cold” air. Every single thing it hears and feels, every single treatment and experience feeds the baby with information about its new world; all the initial life experiences happen when your baby is in your familiar arms giving your baby confidence; it can smell mother and knows your voice well. So your baby’s not scared. In my case, I held Chester for just over 40 minutes as his body was rubbed clean and he took his first breaths and heard sounds outside of the womb. I lay in my husband, Harry’s, arms whilst Chester lay in mine still connected to me by the umbilical cord. When an infant is in arms intolerable experiences become much more tolerable to it and soon become expected. Because of this The Continuum Concept encourages taking baby about your daily life preferably in arms and not constantly treating them with "kitten mittens". Liedloff studies rural Amazonian communities to develop some of her theories and sees that an infant is carried around as its mother does all her daily tasks: walking through the forest (where many sounds are heard); the child encounters rain, wind, sunshine and all other weather changes. In its mother’s arms it experiences all that life has to offer and these life experiences are normalised thereby helping the baby transition into this life. She compares this to a “Western” baby’s experience in a hospital where he may be taken into a baby ward/nursery (I don’t think this happens in England anymore) and instead of a mother tending to its needs immediately, the baby is left without motherly contact. He's also in lifeless clothing - his nappy perhaps changed according to a schedule, whether it was just soiled, clean or was soiled ages ago. Leaving baby in cots and prams where he’s stimulated only for short periods of time becomes the norm. Beyond the womb, a baby craves to have real life experiences, however, your baby will only meet life with a strong sense of self, with confidence, without fear if he is transitioned progressively from skin-to-skin to the in-arms phase to independence. Independence is a natural progression. You won’t spoil your child by holding them too much. They need that contact. Just as you should feed on demand you should also cuddle on demand. All too quickly the day will come when your little one crawls and needs your cuddles less and less. Ultimately, live your life as you always have and make your baby a part of it. There is no need to follow an overly rigid schedule. Going out? Take him. Going downstairs to make a coffee or bake a cake, take him. Let him watch, speak to him as you do it. Don’t leave him staring into space in his cot. This way your baby will transition naturally into independent living. Buy The Continuum Concept by Jean Liedloff on: On 25 October 2014, at about 30 weeks pregnant, Harry's sister hosted a baby shower for our first son Little Zeusy. It was beautiful. It completely surpassed any expectations that Harry and I had for the event. This is the footage of the event:
On 17 October 2014 I was proud to be one of a large group of people that broke The Guinness Book of World Records for The Most Number of People Attending A Business Speed Networking Event At A Single Venue. Prior to this day the record was held by Australia and stood at 475 participants where each participant networked with 21 people. How Did It Work? The event was hosted by Entrevo. They sold tickets to over 600 people for Their Brand Accelerator Day at The Mermaid in Puddle Dock (Blackfriars, London) to take part in the event. They needed at least 500 people to show up to ensure that we had a chance of breaking the world record. 10 minutes prior to the event we were still 20 people short. The CEO of Entrevo, Darshana Ubl, and her team had been going crazy calling no-shows for the last hour trying to get to 500+. The Process:
Anyhow, long story short, the Entrevo team managed to get 510 people into the room prior to the start; Darshana went through how the rows would network with each other and speed networking began. I totally underestimated what hard work this would be. Because I was speaking to people in a lower row in a VERY loud room I a) had to speak loudly to be heard and b) sometimes had to bend for effective communication. The strain on my pregnant back was massive. On top of it all I needed to use the ladies almost from the start but the rules meant anyone that left the room was automatically disqualified. I’ve pretty much mastered holding my need for the loo for 2 to 3 hours so I was fine. The whole process took about 1.5 hours. Of the 22 people I spoke to only one was completely boring - everyone else was rather interesting; a few people I could possibly work with in the long run. The Results The Guinness Book Officials needed a few hours to count the papers. When the announcement was made the GB Official looked sombre. I was pretty sure he was going to say it had gone wrong. He started off with all the bad news: It transpired that in the midst of the speed networking drive some losers had left the room for “urgent” meetings and mundane reasons such as “I can’t do this”. He concluded with (and I paraphrase), “Australia holds the record with 475 attendees. Because although we started with 510 people many had to be disqualified, I’m here to tell you that…” he not only paused for effect but pursed his lips like he was reading a eulogy (and quite frankly Darshana looked like she might cry), “with 487 networkers you’ve beat the record.” Cheers all round. I even jumped out of my chair and did a happy dance. My only hope is currently that I wasn’t caught on camera because for a moment there, I completely lost my marbles.
Whilst I was in America hosting The Money Spot program in August 2014 Apostle Debbie Viggs Founder of The International Council for Women contacted me re. being featured as on of 6 African women to be celebrated. Of course I agreed. I was both honoured and humbled.
By Heather & Harry Katsonga-Woodward Earlier this year I told my YouTube subscribers that I sometimes call Harry, my husband, “The Good Husband” because a few months before we started dating I had created a listed entitled “The Good Husband” specifying all the traits I need in a life partner. A few months after this admission I revealed everything that I had on my list in this video that’s already been watched a few thousand times. A lot of people thought it was a good idea and proceeded to make their own lists. If you haven’t made a list already, Harry and I have come up with the below list that you can use to create your own strategy. We’re not telling you what you should look for at all as everyone has his or her own preferences but we thought you might like this as a guide. Get a piece of paper and use it to create your own list or download the printable version:
So many people ask me about being productive. This week, I decided to put some serious thought into it because I was asked in the sweetest way ever. I didn't want to fob my friend off with a rapid answer but having dug real deep, I thought I ought to share the knowledge because hopefully, it can help you too. The best time to be reading this post is if you're 11! The EmailMorning Heather, I woke up with a question on my mind, thinking how is it that you are able to be so super productive? Do you have a mentor that has literally guided you through and around all the pitfalls? So you've not had to waste gallons of time analysing rubbish? It takes time to 'physically' do the work, there's only so many hours in a day! Do you do a lot of outsourcing? I know you mentioned a mastermind group which is great for guidance and motivation... But I feel like I'm missing something! How do you organise your brain from distractions, your workload... Sorry if it feels like I'm being over curious, it's just that I've wanted to be successful for so long, years have passed, read and implemented so much stuff, got lost in the wilderness and you make it look so 'easy'! What's the secret? Warm regards x My ResponseHey Hun, I have received this question a tonne of times in my life now so when you sent me your email my first response was a little chuckle, it amused me; my next response was genuine confusion: why do I keep getting asked this sort of question? And, I’m not talking about now when I’m 30 but I have a moment firmly stuck in my head from when I was 15 or 16 when this was asked the first time: One of my friends in high school asked me to help her with some calculus. She brought round some old exam questions for us to go through and after about 3 she stopped and said, “Heather, I’m kind of following what you say once you tell me which concept I should use to answer the question but I don’t even see that that’s the concept or principle I should use when I read the question. How do you see that that’s the approach you should take?” I didn’t have a real response. It was only a while later, in university, in fact, that I realized a genuine truth: the more you practice maths, the more the connections in your brain start understanding different interrelated concepts in a way that even you cannot explain. I was a low A / B student in maths when I was 11. My study method was to read the sample solution in a book then practice one or two of the questions. This is the formula for low A/ B results. Then one day I said to myself.: “What would happen if, just for fun, I started solving almost every question in the book rather than just one or two?” This meant that when it was time for me to study maths I would literally just do question after question until the concept bored me. In no time at all I was scoring 90% plus in every maths test and got an A* in GCSE maths plus enough confidence to do A-level maths and A-level further maths. By the time my friend asked me how do you do it, I had been practicing all the maths concepts we’d been taught intensively for 4 or 5 years and that is why I could read any question and immediately connect where my solution lay. I couldn’t teach that. For her to be where I was she would have had to go back with me 5 years and start practicing maths the way I had, then she’d see the solutions immediately - just like I did. Why am I telling you this story? Because this is the first time I can recall getting the “how do you do it?” question. My response to you will be of a somewhat similar nature. MISTAKES First things first, I do make mistakes. I make mistakes all the time. PAID COACHES I have paid to learn various things in my life, e.g. how to buy and use a video camera and a video editing course when I was very new to the game. However, I quickly learnt that most courses are useless. They’re pitched to the lowest common denominator and the content is usually something you can learn yourself on the internet. I don’t pay for coaches anymore, and for me to pay for any program it has to be very, very convincing. This is why The Money Spot Program has so much content and is so structured; I want people to find it invaluable. I join some programs / groups for the network more than the knowledge. They usually contain some good knowledge but the network is the important thing. I like meeting fellow entrepreneurs but normally I have done a lot of the things they teach already, multiple times. How Am I So Productive? I spent much of yesterday listing lots of things that make me productive but I concluded that it comes down to just two things: Good habits and a genuine love for work. Good habits can be taught, a genuine love for work can only be taught before the age of 3. After that it’s too late. What I call fun, some call work. MY REAL COACHES Whilst I haven’t been coached through every mistake in business I have had two coaches that just by living their lives led to the development of my good habits, they’re called mum and dad. A lot of my current behaviour was observed rather than taught. Organization My dad is the most organized human being on the face of the planet. He isn’t even OCD about it he just has a very structured brain that categorizes things very neatly. If my dad tells you a story he will tell you the exact dates it happened, or at least, year for less important things and it’s just a reflection of his structured approach to life. I’m the same way. I only came to realize that this isn’t that normal in university when someone asked why I’m always giving exact answers in general chit chat? Because my brain categorizes information in a very specific manner and I reflect that in speech and how I organize myself. Organization example e.g. if you look at the folders on my computer or my filing cabinet everything is in order and is always in a particular folder. If I want to find something I worked on I can usually find it in a few seconds flat. Most filenames on my computer have a date and a title that ensure that if I forget where to look for them a general computer search will locate them rapidly. When I look at most other people’s computers everything is a hot mess. Productivity and hard work My mum is hands down the most productive person I know. She does so much stuff that it’s even exhausting to watch her. My mum goes to bed around 11 or midnight and is up at 5 or 6 daily. I generally need 7 to 8 hours of sleep to feel normal she seems to function on just 6. In fact, I’m almost embarrassed that I, at 30, have less energy than my 55 year old mother. That said, watching her set my norm for what hard work is. Most people’s norm for hard work is different to mine. Even now, when you think I’m very productive, I think I could work harder and I currently only work within my pleasure limits. It’s only hard work when I start feeling the pain or the strain. Okay, so ultimately what can you do to be more productive? Lots of things! Note that the “Success” section of The Money Spot Program is all about being more productive and teaches all the stuff that makes people fail even when they have all the knowledge. I can summarize it as follows. The points below are general not a direct criticism of you because I only know your behaviour/attitude on only a handful of the below: 1. Don’t be a slave to technology. Technology is meant to be your slave but nowadays, for most people, it’s the other way around. Switch off all push notifications and only check / respond to messages twice a day or in your “relaxed work” sections of the day. Relaxed work is when I don’t need to work intensely on something. In the morning, I don’t usually respond to messages because I am focused on whatever my key task of the day is. I won’t even read a message if I see it. Focus is key and most of the time I just put the phone in another room altogether so that I don’t even get the urge to check it. 2. Don’t read or even answer every email the moment you get it. Prioritize your task of the day and only answer critical mail. It’s also important to have an organisational system for your inbox. You should have only one or two inboxes where all the important business and family stuff goes; then another inbox for email list signups and fan mail etc. 3. Use your important inbox as a secondary to-do list. During my 3 email checks of the day I make a very quick decision on what doesn’t need to be read at all and file it or delete it instantly. I immediately unsubscribe from anything I don’t want to see in there anymore. This means only things I need to respond to are ever in my inbox. However, some of them can wait for two months and I’ll leave them there until I need to respond to them. 4. Stop watching trash news and reading trash mags. My definition of trash news is pretty much all of it. Some people look down at me because I choose not keep up to date with stuff like Israel and the Palestine but as you say, there are only so many hours in a day. War news has never interested me and it probably never will. If it does, I’ll pick up a history book. For now, I’m content to look like a jackass when someone I am with decides to have a really in depth discussion about the Middle East. Personally, I hate those conversations, they don’t stimulate me, they depress me. I’d rather chat about the latest apps and new ‘treps. 5. Read and watch quality content. I only subscribe to and read Entrepreneur Magazine; I’ll take a sneak at People, OK and Heat and other such “entertainment” occasionally as I peruse the newspaper headlines in a store but I’ll never spend a dime on that type of content, no sirree, that’s a formula for time wastage and non-productivity. I enjoy watching Bloomberg GameChangers and similar programs. They make me feel motivated. 6. Take time to understand things properly. Whether it is video editing or website building you need to allow yourself the time to learn it. Once you understand it properly you will get faster at using the technology. Most people just get frustrated and give up. There is a tonne of free information on the internet and most people don’t use it at all . 7. Don’t do lie-ins! I don’t set an alarm unless I have to be somewhere but by the same token I don’t like just lying in bed. Personally, I like to be up by 7:00 a.m. or close to this time whether it is a weekday or a weekend. This makes me lazy because, growing up, my parents were always up by 6:00 a.m. regardless of the day. This set my norm. I actually feel awful if I wake up after 9:30 a.m. My whole being just says "What are you doing?" Of course, I acknowledge that some people work better at night, etc. but I think early to bed and early to rise is a genuine success strategy. 8. Live like a president! Okay, so above you’re probably thinking, what if you were out late the night before? I never am out too late. Wherever I go I always plan to be back home by midnight at the latest, ideally by 10:00 p.m. Before I had a car I would pre-book my cab to ensure this was the case. Even if I’m having fun I’ll leave at my planned time. It does make me a killjoy at times but do you think Obama parties until 5:00 a.m.? I did that stuff when I was a teen and I’m glad my dad let me because it got it out my system. My parents let me go out once or twice a week until whatever time I wanted from the time I was 15. As I approached 23 it got boring. 9. Listen to your body. Sometimes I’ll wake up and just not feel up to doing anything, work or otherwise. This is a signal that my brain is tired and I allow it to be tired. On these days I wake up around 9:00 a.m., shower and just watch trash TV. I know when my brain has recovered when it starts getting boring. 10. Rest adequately. I am über-non-productive if I’m tired so I always ensure I get enough rest. I have found that my sleep requirements in pregnancy have changed. Whereas I had to have 7/8 hours every night I seem to function very well on 5 or 6 at night plus one or two in the afternoon. This means my pregnant self can go to bed at 10 and will naturally wake up at 3 or 4 and feel like getting out of bed. I then make up for that after lunch. 11. Surround yourself with positive people. I don’t mix with negative people and people that I don’t find supportive because they will drain you and make you less productive. They’ll also make you doubt yourself. 12. Acknowledge that progress takes time. I have a couple of regular Virtual Assistants and use freelancers regularly for graphics etc. but I do a lot of the work myself. I write all my own blogs and books. I shoot all my own videos, frequently on my own and at times with Harry’s help. I edit all my own videos; record and edit all my own podcasts; build most of my own websites. It didn’t happen overnight but when you do a little something every day it begins to add up. 13. Be precious about your time. When you set yourself the goal of doing something make sure you do it in that time. Most people are so easily and quickly distracted. If someone calls them up for a coffee or a party they go even though they’re meant to be doing something else at that time. I’m like this with things I don’t enjoy, e.g. sales calls; I will find anything else to do instead of making that call because I genuinely have always disliked talking on the phone. If you don’t enjoy most of the tasks you’re working on, you’ll be less productive. I love to read and write so all the blogging comes very easily to me. 14. Say “no” more often that you say “yes” or charge for it. Someone asks me to do something for them (for free) almost every day nowadays. I used to just give my time willy nilly but I realized quickly that it’s not beneficial to do that. I barely have time to call my mum and dad so no one else should be getting first dibs on my time. The way I see it now is that my time is Little Zeusy’s time and if someone wants to take my little boy’s time they need to pay me for it, period. If they really value my knowledge they will pay for it because people always seem to find the resources to pay for the things they see as important to their own growth and development. If they don’t want to pay for my help then I don’t fall into that category for them and as such I don’t waste my time and I can focus my energy on my son’s growth and development. Even though I’m just 29 weeks pregnant I’ve been reading to him daily in the third trimester. The stories we’re reading are fascinating and I already can’t wait to read him my favourite stories from when I was a kid. I think that sums me up on productivity. It goes without saying that all productivity is based on preset SMART goals. H xx Click the image below to see my full program content and join it! Want to Build a 6-Figure Beauty Business from the comfort of your sofa? Then my course is designed for YOU! 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By Heather Katsonga-WoodwardI'm always thinking, debating, considering and revising my views - some of those deliberations will be shared right here. |