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Sex and Satin Bonnets - What To Do If Your Partner Hates It!

11/11/2013

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I would add "dump him" but some may consider that too extreme. 

My real issue is: it's night time, the one time of the day when you should surely be "allowed" to just be yourself with no fear of judgement. I not only wear a satin bonnet I sleep in a granny nightie! They are more comfortable and luckily for me my husband is attracted to me despite it. Where do you stand on the issue?
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Okay, call me naive but I thought when I asked the Facebook page about what they do if their boo hates the satin bonnet I thought most folk would be like "he doesn't care"!

The good news is that most guys aren't bothered by satin bonnets, however, some guys simply don't like the look. I don't know why. My Harry isn't bothered by it at all. He's worn one to bed a couple of times to support me. He's a real keeper that boy!

First, don't worry if your boo doesn't like it, you're in fairly good company. There seem to be two solutions:
  1. Switch to a satin pillowcase
  2. Talk about it until he understands why you need it.

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Questions I asked the Facebook page:
Click a link to read the responses and to add your two cents!
  • Okay, so have any of your husbands or boyfriends admitted they don't find your bonnet sexy? What was your solution?!!
  • Has your satin bonnet ever led to an intense argument between you and your boo? Worse, a breakup?
11 Comments
Carmen
12/11/2013 07:14:59 am

I use a satin scarf and a satin pillowcase. When it comes to intimacy, the scarf comes off. That's my choice though. He's never asked me to remove it.

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Roxy Murphy link
12/11/2013 07:56:34 am

I sleep on a satin pillowcase with a satin bonnet most nights. My guy doesn't mind because he understands this is something I have to do to protect the beautiful hair he loves. One guy I dated didn't like it and I thought it was ridiculous. It's not like we are on a reality tv show or he played in my hair all night. I told him when he stopped talking in his sleep I would stop wearing my bonnet, haha.

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Nneka, Working Mystic link
12/11/2013 09:35:55 am

Pillow case hands down! I don't even want to wear a bonnet on my head. Way to inhibiting!

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Malissa
13/11/2013 01:11:13 am

I actually agree with your "dump him" statement. I could see if I was walking around all day with a bonnet or going out with them and not keeping up with my hair...but to protect my hair at night while we sleep is a problem for you...my ex tried that before...he got over it quickly. Btw, that's not why he's my ex (lol) but I should have suspected something when he made the comment about my bonnet lol.

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Shyasia
13/11/2013 06:48:14 am

My man made one comment on my satin bonnet
I explained that it was like his doo rag which he wears to protect his head and add waves to his hair. He then made no comments after that. I think that went very well

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Vannessa
20/11/2013 12:43:44 am

The only time my fiancee made a comment was when I was deep conditioning over night--I had oil, tin foil, bandana, satin scarf, satin bonnet and then a winter hat LOL I looked like a martian with a huuuge head!

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Naomi
10/2/2014 09:09:00 pm

Tin foil??! that cracked me up lol

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Mina
17/7/2014 08:55:25 am

And you slept soundly that night? LOL

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Betty G
25/12/2013 06:56:28 pm

Dump him.....satin bonnet...

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PhiPhi
17/7/2014 05:54:54 am

Try explaining first, if he doesn't understand, switch to a satin pillowcase, and if he still doesn't understand, you have all our blessing to "dump him". . .

Live by the code, "Hair before bros". . .lol.

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Chrissie link
2/8/2014 11:37:04 am

I say dump him! :p my husband just laughs. But after a few weeks of wearing a stocking cap over top of an old stretched out bonnet (lol) I finally got a new bonnet that was turban style. He said it was hot!

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